I had the chance to visit an old friend of mine today. We met in the old BNI days, which was more than seven years ago. Actually, it was the first time I have seen him ever since Lydia has passed on years ago.
He is still as alert as ever and, sharp as a tack. But throughout the years, loneliness crept in. His children Stephen and Ester have gone on with their lives and so, its hard to come home to an empty house. So, he surprised everyone with a second wife.
Yeah, I nearly spewed my cup of coffee too. And my eyes popped out when she was a Filipino. Yeah, we all about the stereotypes and I myself witness one which screwed a company but since this is his life, and he has everything planned out, who am I to tell him otherwise. But he has it all sorted out, he says, through his series of tests, she got through them.
So, I just took it all in silently. For you see, its one thing to give advise and another thing to advise with opinions. I did what I always did when I listen, I shut up. I mean, he has already made up his mind and knows where things are heading. Although I have my reservations, I cannot, as a friend, tell him otherwise because of what I felt and/or think. He is already lonely and there is no one else to be with him. And it would not be fair for everyone to come back to just to be there for him. But I know he will be fine.
And so, I wished him all the best, advised him on how to troubleshoot an ADSL line and indirectly told him to call me if there is anything he needs help with.