Me: OK, girl. What do you want to do now?
Kristine: I want to take bath
Me: OK. Have you picked out your clothes?
Kristine: Not yet, Dad.
Me: Go and choose your clothes, then
Me: And place them on the ironing board so you can see the clothes you have chosen
She's going to be a big girl now, and once in a while, I let her make her own real decisions. I mean, I will let her decide her answer and not "lead" her to choices I have set. So, this way, she can start to think (I hope) properly before answering because once the decision is set, she will have to live with the consequences.